5 simple things you wish you were taught in school
After stepping into society for some time now, I have realized that my life doesn’t depend on what I learned in school, but on what I learn from the people in school.
Through the interactions I had with my peers and professors, I never fail to pick up one to two things I was lacking, and always kept me thinking about how I could have managed myself better.
Feeling a tinge of regret that I did nothing about it, but I must accept the person I am.
My experiences with them have instilled many valuable lessons in me, and they have broadened both my perspective of life and my expectations of myself. Though I wish we could learn these things in school, it cannot be done through class projects.
Not being too hard on yourself
As stressful and competitive as a school might be for many students, being in the workforce definitely puts you into a game of comparative success. In an environment where you are constantly hearing about your peers’ career dreams and financial goals, you might feel you aren’t working as hard as they are. In the end, you will find yourself thinking about doing more in your career, seeking recognition and certifications, and drowning yourself in commitments.
However, putting yourself in a situation where you cannot handle your decisions could backfire on your efforts to improve. Because of this, you might want to consider balancing your expectations of yourself and not getting thrown off course by others’ achievements. Think about the things you must do in order to live a life that your heart desires and not that of others.
Be accountable for your well-being
At work, as soon as you log into your communication platform, your managers start overloading you with tasks, asking you to attend several client meetings, and directing you to take part in a few more projects. You are pretty much tied up with work and leave no room for you to think about yourself.
Soon you realize you are working late on most days, simply trying to stay afloat and not wanting to talk to your bosses about your heavy workload. Being deprived of your daily caffeine boost simply because you have no time to prepare one coffee wreaks havoc on your energy.
When you leave no room to care for your mental well being you will be chained to your negative feelings and drained to a point of burnout.
Taking short breaks when you are working should be of your top priorities as it can help you stay focused and productive throughout the day. Therefore, it is crucial to always care for yourself even if no one is in the room to remind you.
Loving what you do for the right reasons rather than for the rewards
Many of us often misunderstand the reasons for getting a job after we graduate from school. Some people pursue jobs for fame, but others only want to pay off their hefty school debt.
When we take a deep breath and give our jobs serious consideration, we frequently think about the benefits they will bring rather than their actual purpose, especially when they will fill a significant part of our lives.
While I disagree with some people studying for courses that will earn them higher wages, we often misconstrued that all of us should do that for a living. There are many reasons people do certain things, but doing it for the sake of getting rewarded may not always be the best approach for starting.
As opposed to thinking of jobs as obligations, look at them as an opportunity to strengthen your character and values by growing into someone greater than you thought you were capable of becoming.
Isn’t it time to rethink what we truly want to do for the rest of our lives?
Earning for our own keep (Entitlement)
Some of us may not be privileged enough to get what we want, such as studying at the school we dream of or getting the job we desire. However, there will always be a group of people who appear to have it all too easy because of their backgrounds. Looking at those people makes us wonder how it feels to have it all.
While we cannot deny how unbalanced society is for equal opportunity, whether we can accept who we are comes down to whether we accept who we are. We should instead focus on what we have and how we can modestly earn our rights to achieve those things we desire, rather than thinking about how inadequate we already are.
All you need is to be yourself
When we were in school, we thought about the kind of persona we want to be when meeting new people. When portrayed as smart and knowledgeable, people are more likely to be interested in you, and most likely will get close to you for many reasons.
But you knew that wasn’t the real you, and it hurts to know that you couldn’t be yourself in front of the people you care for. Once your peers learn who you are, your fake persona will make you look like a fraud.
Knowing that by being yourself, you are already enough. Whether you are accepted for who you are, you must understand that no one loves you more than you do.
Be kind to yourself and embrace everything that comes in your way. The most important thing is to be yourself, acknowledge you are not perfect, and not be too proud to ask questions when needed.
While I take this chance to look back on my time at university, I must admit that the people I met made me feel a certain way about myself, and I finally understood that it does not come from my upbringing, but also from my way of thinking about society and life.
It was thanks to my time at university that I could make rational decisions and finally overcome misconceptions I had about my values in life. Looking back, I wish these lessons had been taught in school to help us realize our self-worth and motivation, and not let distractions stand in the way of our dreams.
About The Author:
Vince Law is an Accountancy graduate from Singapore Management University. Having a keen eye for numbers and a bent for problem-solving, he is currently working as a business consultant at one of the Big 4 Accounting firms, focusing on both consulting and assurance. During his free time, he writes on topics related to personal development and current affairs through his lens.
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