5 reasons why making your own decision is difficult

As I write this post, I wonder how simple life would be if we could make the right decisions every time. Each time I make a decision, it takes up so much of my energy to avoid mistakes and make the best of the options. As an overthinker, I always love to lay out the entire picture and analyze the pros and cons of the issue, ensuring that I could justify my reasons before proceeding with my choice. Often, we find it difficult to make up our minds, not being able to settle with a rational choice. Thus, based on my experience, I would like to write about the reasons it is difficult to make our own decisions.

Without having a clear purpose

Being analytical and risk-averse both at the same time is a bit of a paradox, but I always find the real purpose behind my choices. Under time pressure, we tend to make subpar decisions because we are panicking and trying to escape from the stress. We might be overwhelmed with many considerations and pick the easiest alternative.

If we have an apparent purpose for the decision, we can revisit the decision-making process and dedicate more time to fulfilling the sole purpose behind it. Using it as a guiding principle to decide can be a powerful way to progress since pushing ahead without a strong justification can lead to confusion and misunderstandings. Sometimes it may be the main reason you weren’t able to decide.

Being deprived of choices

Conversely, when we are deprived of choices, we tend to be more resourceful and selective. Regardless of the outcome, we need to understand the essentials rather than preferences since we may have only a few options. It helps us to streamline and eliminate the excess factors we consider before coming to a consensus, even though we may be restricted. It can still be tough because restrictions bound us and have no choice but to make do with what we have. Having limited options still makes decision-making more challenging.

Lack of clarity

Making decisions can be difficult because we lack clarity about the complexity behind them, and the implications of the outcome, which prevents us from being decisive. It may involve multiple parties, reputations, and other kinds of risks that we are not willing to deal with. Deciding in a hurry can be dangerous when there is a gap in information. As much as we try to infer or guess the information, making the right decision is not easy since it may involve high risk. Therefore, sometimes you wish that someone could make that decision for you because you simply aren’t able to.

Lack of commitment

Lack of commitment may be a deal-breaker, given the limited time you have to fulfill multiple commitments simultaneously. Deciding without committing to it can be risky since we cannot be sure when the decision will fail. With so many distractions in our daily lives, having so subpar a mentality is one of the easiest ways to get back to our comfort zones. Not committing to our decisions is almost like pressing the vending machine without picking up the cola we just purchased. We cannot decide if we don’t want to follow through and that leads to the results we want.

Over-reliance on others to make decisions

When we are overly reliant on someone to decide for us, it can be very hard to break away since we may always believe their decisions are right. When we are forced to think, we may not choose the right basis for our decision, which can lead to more errors. When we face bigger decisions, we are more apprehensive and risk-averse to prevent losses.

While these factors affect our decision-making, we somehow wish that we could outsource our decision-making to someone else. Having the conviction in wanting to make the best decision for ourselves is like physically delivering a birthday cake to a friend. We might smash the cake to pieces if we run to deliver it. If we walk to her house to deliver the cake, it will be in perfect condition.

Although outsourcing the delivery to a grab driver can be a viable option, there is no guarantee that the cake will arrive in the condition you desired. Take your pick and decide what outcome you want without overcomplicating the process.

About The Author:

Vince Law is an Accountancy graduate from Singapore Management University. Having a keen eye for numbers and a bent for problem-solving, he is currently working as a business consultant at one of the Big 4 Accounting firms, focusing on both consulting and assurance. During his free time, he writes on topics related to personal development and current affairs through his lens.

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Yin Kai Law (Vince)

Yin Kai Law (Vince)

Singaporean boy who loves to eat and travel. | Also writes at http://lawyinkai.wordpress.com