5 reasons why making your own decision is difficult

Yin Kai Law (Vince)
5 min readJan 9, 2022
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As I write this post, I wonder how simple life would be if we could make the right decisions every time. Each time I make a decision, it takes up so much of my energy to avoid mistakes and make the best of the options. As an overthinker, I always love to lay out the entire picture and analyze the pros and cons of the issue, ensuring that I could justify my reasons before proceeding with my choice. Often, we find it difficult to make up our minds, not being able to settle with a rational choice. Thus, based on my experience, I would like to write about the reasons it is difficult to make our own decisions.

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Without having a clear purpose

Being analytical and risk-averse both at the same time is a bit of a paradox, but I always find the real purpose behind my choices. Under time pressure, we tend to make subpar decisions because we are panicking and trying to escape from the stress. We might be overwhelmed with many considerations and pick the easiest alternative.

If we have an apparent purpose for the decision, we can revisit the decision-making process and dedicate more time to fulfilling the sole purpose behind it. Using it as a guiding principle to decide can be a powerful way to progress since pushing ahead without a strong justification can lead to confusion and misunderstandings. Sometimes it may be the main reason you weren’t able to decide.

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Being deprived of choices

Conversely, when we are deprived of choices, we tend to be more resourceful and selective. Regardless of the outcome, we need to understand the essentials rather than preferences since we may have only a few options. It helps us to streamline and eliminate the excess factors we consider before coming to a consensus, even though we may be restricted. It can still be tough because restrictions bound us and have no choice but to make do with what we have. Having limited options still makes decision-making more challenging.

Yin Kai Law (Vince)

Ex-Big 4 Auditor & Freelance writer from Singapore | Big Advocate on Mental Health and Personal Development | Writes at https://lawyinkai.wordpress.com/